Change Frame on Cause/Evidence
Find another frame (larger/smaller) that invalidates their belief.
Ask:
- What is something larger or smaller they haven’t noticed?
- What’s another frame for the same behavior?
- What can you chunk up to (Universal Quantifier: all, every, everyone, totally, completely)?
Statement: Finding a new job is very hard.
Only people who have that mindset cannot find a new job.
Statement: His laziness at work makes me very angry.
From 0-10 in the lazy scale, how lazy should he be to make you not as angry?