Sean's Haven

Hierarchy of values on Effect/Belief

Point out what’s more important than their argument or belief.

Ask:

1. What are higher values?
2. What’s more important?
3. How can you apply the current value to their values?

Change Frame on Cause/Evidence

Find another frame (larger/smaller) that invalidates their belief.

Ask:

1. What is something larger or smaller they haven’t noticed?
2. What’s another frame for the same behavior?
3. What can you chunk up to (Universal Quantifier: all, every, everyone, totally, completely)?

Apply To Self On Effect/Belief

Applying the word, concept or belief back on itself.

Ask:

1. Nothing. Don’t think about it, just use the word/concept back on itself.

Apply to self on Cause/Evidence

Applying the word, concept or belief back on itself.

Ask:

1. Nothing. Don’t think about it, just use the word/concept back on itself.

Reality Stratety on Cause/Evidence

Don’t attact the information, attach the source of the information.

Ask:

1. Where did they learn that?
2. How do they/you know if it’s not true?
3. Attach the source or evidence of the belief.

Metaframe Pattern

Think of another belief about this belief.

Ask:

1. How is it possible they could believe what they are saying?

2. Outframe the entire argument or think of a belief about this belief.

This pattern usually takes the form of “You’re only saying that because…“

Hierarchy of Ideas: Lateral-chunk everything
What is this an example of?
What are other examples of this?

Rapport: Match/Mirror/Lead Everyone
Everything

Add powerful state(s) to your resource anchor
i.e., Compassion

Continue learning, integrating and using
At the unconscious level

Hierarchy of Ideas: Chunk all conversation down
What are examples of this?

Rapport: Match/Mirror/Lead everyone
Predicates and phrases

Design a metaphor for someone in your life
Use Milton Patterns as much as possible.

Hierarchy of Ideas: Chunk all conversations up
For what purpose?

Rapport: Match/Mirror/Lead Everyone
Predicates and phrases

Goals
Ensure you’re taking action!